He made you feel lower than dirt and it bothers you but you are ashamed to say it to someone because you feel so ashamed .. Dont be afraid anymore. If it bothers you, speak about it here.
- He hurt you so bad and the hurt wont go away and no one wants to listen to you because they think you should be over it.
- He made you stop loving yourself
-He made you stop loving all men...
Talk, we are here to listen... the anonymous option is open , use it if you must.
still practicing psychiatry without ah licence Met??
ReplyDeletedwlllll belly please low mi n go talk bout shizzle scarf... a dow tink a hear u seh one word about it________________________
ReplyDeleteIm 22 and I'm in a very abusive relationship with an older man.. And I tried to leave so many times.He's married with a kid and he says he is with her for the papers but I find that hard to believe. Anyway, I feel like a prisoner. I cant hang out with my friends. He's around me 24/7..It becoming to hard to bare..
ReplyDeleteDistraught
how much older is he? and how does he find the time to be around you when he is married? Have you tried calling the police or what about just up n move?
ReplyDeleteHe is 14 years older than me.We both work in the morning so we get off around the same time. Sometimes I want to go home and relax alone but he's under me every second off the day, checking my phone and all. He makes sure he turns off his phone but Met I try, and try, and try to leave but it is IMPOSSIBLE!!!I don't live with him but I might as well
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It may be very hard to leave but please do not give this man all your youth.It will leave you with bitterness. No woman deserves to be abused or to feel like man's prisoner. Leave before the scars become too hard to erase
ReplyDeletebelllllllllllllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy do up met yessssssss mi baddy....
ReplyDelete{{met how u neva tell mi say a so di vegas tweets topic was scarchin ma? u wicked like wah..all sum ppl a cuss out bloodclaat pon deh..smh.. i tell u, u miss a day and its like a yr on here...}}
The phone thing disturbs me because he has his locked and you cant search his... The control thing and I guess he feels he is a bit higher than you. He has had 14 years ahead of you so he knows the tricks and the trades, it wont be easy but believe me the baggage that he will leave you with may be worse than his physical abuse. Firstly he is married for papers or not,you should not be with him, dont sell yourself short on love and dont let this man delay ur destiny..
ReplyDeletemilan den how u neva know dat? u head gone eno.. di ppl dem cuss yes
ReplyDeleteplease low me n sister Belly...thank u
Dear Pastor.. *ahem* I mean Met..
ReplyDeleteHe even had his mother call me and tell me he loves me and this and that.. But at the end of the day that his mother and she gonna defend him to the end..It easier said than done
ReplyDeleteDistraught
His mother called you and told you he loves you? What does she say about the abuse??
ReplyDeletegoodnite..i was goin bed til i read this
ReplyDelete@ distraught does his mothet kno he is abusin u?????
typo..mother
ReplyDeleteLEAVE THIS MAN NOW! TRUST ME GIRL PLS LISTEN TO ME THIS MAN DOES NOT WANNA SEE GOOD THINGS IN LIFE 4 U- MATTER OF FACT HE IS JEALOUS OF U. AM TELLING U THIS BECAUSE I AM A SURVIVOR (NOT VICTIM)OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
ReplyDeleteYoko some of these mothers are really something rite? smh
ReplyDeleteDA LONGER U STAY DA MORE DOWN N OUT U WILL FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF N DA LONGER IT WILL TAKE TO HEAL. TRUST ME GIRL I AM STEAL HEALING N THIS HAPPENED TO ME MANY YEARS AGO 5YRS NOW N SUMTIMES IT STILL FEEL LIKE DA ABUSE WAS JUST YESTERDAY
ReplyDeletemet me a tocuh rd likkle laterrrrrr
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ReplyDeleteanonymous is like dem steal your soul.. mi neva go through it but mi see it with mi own two eyes happen to someone I know
LEAVE HIM THEN HEAL YOURSELF AFTER THAT LEARN TO FORGIVE HIM THEN FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR ALLOWING A MAN TO ABUSE YOU - GOOD LUCK GIRL U R IN MY PRAYERS
ReplyDelete@MET TRUST ME I WOULDNT WISH WHAT IVE BEEN THRU ON MY WORST ENEMY
ReplyDeleteAND I AM NOT BITTER I WISH HIM WELL N LIFE N DONT WISH HIM NO HARM IT TOOK A WHILE FOR ME TO GET PEACE FAITH N FORGIVENESS HEALS ALL WOUNDS
ReplyDeleteAnd the worst thing is that dem man yah nuh really care eno.. because dem sick demself enough fi abuse ppl
ReplyDelete@ anonymous it seems like you are ready to leave and i only give advice to people who are ready to walk away always remember its better to walk away than to be walked on..he has too much baggage and toomany problems..insecure, controling, and abusive.. I mean he isnt really giving you a reason to look pass his marriage "paper situation.. please leave while you are young and most important without a child for him! a clean break
ReplyDeletewell i feel trapped, i been with a man going on 4 years, i found out that he had a babymother living with way after i fell in live with him....am in the process of trying to leave him, but he wont allow me to....he tells me he is madly in love with me, and if i leave him he's gonna go crazy.....he tells me he's only there because of his daughter, and if i should leave the area that am living right now, he would live with me....he sleeps with me everynight, and go home at 6 in the morning....he takes me everywhere i need to go....he loves my kids and hangs out with us.....i just dont get this arrangement.....yes am positive that he lives with a babymother,,,,i even called her, and said somethings anonymously, just to find out, and its true, but i trutly dont understand the arrangements....she does not work nights, so how does she put up woth this shit............
ReplyDeleteMen are great liars, if he leaves you at 6 to go home he is giving his baby mother a good excuse as to y he comes home at that time... Funny enough most men often give the same excuse ''they r there because of the children'' ..in most instances they are more selfish than women and really wont stick around because of the children. If he wants you to leave the area you live in then he should help you out of it. Be very careful because these men sometimes have a totally different life than what they tell u
ReplyDeleteI know...but i really dont know wat to do....am planning to move away from eveerything including him, but he is always around me...how could i plan and he not know..........
ReplyDeleteam not a naive person either, i just got caught up....i believe he has a babymother, i ask him wats the real deal, he says she knows he has a woman, but she cant do anything about, she dont care, and they're just together cause he needs to help out with the child...
ReplyDeleteU dont have to plan and not tell him. Plan and tell him u seriously want to move on with ur life...if u hide it from him u urself may end up going back
ReplyDeletehelp out how?
ReplyDeleteshani tell dem men lie dem will tell u ita snow outside an a jamaica yuh deh
ReplyDeletegoodniteeveryone and met
ReplyDeleteSocial a mi fi tell u... Mi know of one who was with someone I know for 10 yrs... neva know dis man a Priest
ReplyDeletenite bevvvvvvvv
ReplyDeleteAnon 7:51..tell wi bout di sex life....yu go pan yu head tap fi him?
ReplyDeleteTalk di tings dem!
Wey yu a use hole him.....
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ReplyDeletesoci di way di man wicked when u meet him and if u bring up bible him will seh him not a believer!..SOME WICKED PPL A WALK DIS WORLD YAH I TELL U
ReplyDeleteking of fire dis is not a sex topic... how u come up wid dat ??
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ReplyDeleteWell since anon waaa leave him...
ReplyDeleteJuss gi him some boring sex.....
Which man ago come back fi boring sex.....problem solved.
So how di sex life a go...headtop...footpan shoulda....run it
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ReplyDeletemet,i would really like to know what u think about this>>>i'm a young woman who believes that when ur in a relationship with some one it should be with them n them only.but often times my friends tell me that i'm a fool n a man clown,n i should go out n f**K n cause i dnt know what my man is doing r they would sometime say he is f**king other woman.i've seen females sleep around n they look happy n proud,but i'm not like that but sometimes i'm kinda torn between the two.
ReplyDeletemus junk r hawny
ReplyDeleteanonymous.... when hell fire a burn u fren dem a go too busy a get fi dem skaawchin eno dem nah go can help u...live ur life the right way ...nuh falla dem because a u one a go haffi ansa n give account fi ur life... wedda to di man to ur children or future children if u have any and then God suh mek dem gwaan do whey dem want..tell dem u a clown but u star ur own circus
ReplyDeleteunno see why mace cant stop sell
ReplyDeleteTunny must have principle.
ReplyDeleteso is it r is it not ok so sleep with any man a woman want? r whatever makes a woman happy? whatever is right? how do u know what u think is ? (confused)
ReplyDeleteanonymous a tink belly jus ansa u ____________________________________________________________________________________________________
ReplyDeletesuh ppl mace p***Y?
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Hmmm I just came out of a 7year emotional & Mental Abuse..
ReplyDeleteNo matter what any1 says, u have to decide when enough is enough...
He liad so bad i could write 100 books but I have learnt to not hate men, to forgive him and know that i am worth so much more...
Women need to realise that they are very very strong and can do so much on their own but we so scared to be single??? I had my own money, own home etc etc...but i just needed the comfort of having a man..even though he wasn't there!!!
my advise is to pray and ask for strength and be ready to accept that somedays u b wishing to go back but be strong...and never look back..show yourself u can do it...
Hey Met,
ReplyDeleteI am so glad that you created this post. I am going through a situation with a man currently that is eating me. I been dealing with this man since last sept. and it's been on and off. For example things will go well for 2mon. then he will act up and we won't speak for like 1mon and then he calls me with some bullshit story about how sorry he is and we will start talking again. I know nothing about this man except that he has a 4yr old daugther, lives in the bx, and is a DJ. This guy is always partying. We have great times when we hang out. We recently both said we love eachother. Something aint right, but i guess I just keeping thinking things will get better. I know some other woman must be in his life, but I can't seem to find a way to find out. I wanna find out the truth about this guy.....Help, what are some suggestions or ways to find things out about a lying man? or do I just drop the situation all together?
I read your blog everyday but never comment b4 today. I am very much happy you brought this topic up cuz I am going thru a problem that I can't talk to my family or frens about. I just start dating this guy that I have love like forever. He is 10 yrs my senior but seem to be more complicated than I am. The problem is b4 him every other relationships or just casual dating I was involve in, I ran the show, I call all the shots and I have all the last words keep in mind I have dated much older guys than him so I don't think its because of the age difference. It’s reaching a point where it’s driving me crazy, I feel as if I don't have a say in the relationship, for the first time in the 25 years I’m on this planet I feel like a child. I'm a spoil brat and I’m so use to getting my own way, my parents let me make my own decisions from I was very young so I am not use to people telling me what to do and how to do it. But for some reason he treats me like I should be cuddled and cared for because the world is a big mean place and I’m too young to understand that, and trust I may be a lot of things but naïve is not one of them. My question to you is what you think I should do.
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@ 8:40 anonymous...he has clearly shown that you are not a priority in his life but is definitely comfortable with the fact that he can have u at a drop of a dime. please, don't waste your time and energy trying to find out about him. if he's not willing to open up to u, it's not necessarily that he's hiding something...he simply just doesn't think that you are important enough to know the happenings in his life. this not a good base for a relationship. the time that he is away, channel your worries, fears and frustrations into trying to let him go out of your heart and your mind. also, try to make yourself as busy and as unavailable as possible. eventually as time go by u will get over him.
ReplyDelete@ 9:40 anonymous...I don't necessarily see anything wrong with your situation. it's easier being in control than allowing someone else to do so. It may very well be a vital process that you need to go through in your life. it's your choice...u can opt out, or stick with it and learn a thing or two, good luck!
ReplyDelete@ 9:42pm anonymous...frankly, the friends are saying these things about your man are not your friends. It sounds like they have a hidden agenda and unless they have substantial proof of your man cheating, then you must dismiss these allegation and cut them loose. They are stirring your mind and that is not a good sign. Please, free yourself.
ReplyDelete@ 9:02 pm anonymous...frankly, the friends are saying these things about your man are not your friends. It sounds like they have a hidden agenda and unless they have substantial proof of your man cheating, then you must dismiss these allegation and cut them loose. They are stirring your mind and that is not a good sign. Please, free yourself.
ReplyDelete@ distraught and anonymous 8:03 pm...I believe I can offer a practical solution, but I prefer not to post it here. my email address is essenceofebony@hotmail.com
ReplyDeletemet, hope it's not a problem. thanks in advance
sorry met, forgot to tell you...luv your blog, lol
ReplyDeletethank uuuuuuuuuuuu
ReplyDeleteThank you anonymous!.....I posted as anonymous @8:40
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